What do you want to accomplish?

You may have noticed my focus on honesty the past couple weeks. I believe the majority of struggles people and groups (families, friends, teams, schools, businesses, organizations) are experiencing originate from:

People find it challenging to be honest about certain things in certain situations. Even necessary things in crucial situations. But we've learned that honesty itself is not the struggle. People do not withhold honesty because they lack clarity. They withhold honesty because they lack the courage...

Think about a specific kind of person in your life. A person you find it challenging to be honest with because of how they react. Someone you calculate how truthful you’ll be with so as not to upset them or invite their wrath. Someone you bite your tongue around because of the patterns of reactions...

Let us entertain, just for a moment, that honesty was inherently hard. Imagine it as the behavioral equivalent of hitting a 105mph fastball. What then?

Yesterday, I gave you two scenarios that involved honesty. In Scenario 1, you are speaking about someone who is not present. In Scenario 2, you are speaking directly to the person.

Let's look at two scenarios where we have the opportunity to be honest.

I will give you a glaring example of how your thoughts and beliefs feed your decisions and actions. It revolves around the act of honesty.

Your decisions are the product of your thoughts. Your behavior patterns are the output of your belief system. What you think and believe feeds how you decide and act. What is externally observable explains what is internally unobservable.

Step one is accepting that you never have all the information. Step two is not being paralyzed by that awareness.