What do you want to accomplish?

When there is something you want but do not have, it is worth knowing why. 

If people in your life experience you as being more receptive to honesty, you will get more honesty more often. The problem is not all of that honesty will be relevant or useful. That's okay, and I will tell you why.

There are two kinds of people: 

You may have noticed my focus on honesty the past couple weeks. I believe the majority of struggles people and groups (families, friends, teams, schools, businesses, organizations) are experiencing originate from:

People find it challenging to be honest about certain things in certain situations. Even necessary things in crucial situations. But we've learned that honesty itself is not the struggle. People do not withhold honesty because they lack clarity. They withhold honesty because they lack the courage...

Think about a specific kind of person in your life. A person you find it challenging to be honest with because of how they react. Someone you calculate how truthful you’ll be with so as not to upset them or invite their wrath. Someone you bite your tongue around because of the patterns of reactions...

Let us entertain, just for a moment, that honesty was inherently hard. Imagine it as the behavioral equivalent of hitting a 105mph fastball. What then?

Yesterday, I gave you two scenarios that involved honesty. In Scenario 1, you are speaking about someone who is not present. In Scenario 2, you are speaking directly to the person.

Let's look at two scenarios where we have the opportunity to be honest.